One year of long distance dating!

Tomorrow marks 1 year since my boyfriend and I began the long distance part of our relationship.  I can’t believe that so much time has gone by so incredibly quickly. This will not be a long blog post, but there are a few things that I have learned from being apart from my boyfriend off and on for a year now.

  1. Long distance is very possible: Both individuals have to be willing to make it work and you MUST be flexible. If you are a rigid person long distance may be quite challenging, which leads me to my second point.
  2. You MUST be flexible: There may be days where you don’t talk with your OOA (object of affection) and guess what? That is OKAY! Sometimes people are just busy and you have to keep that in mind with your boyfriend or girlfriend. They have a life that they are trying to get in order, so you cannot expect them to be glued to their phone waiting night and day for your text message. Trust that your boyfriend or girlfriend still love you and that they will call you when they can.
  3. You MUST make an effort to put time aside for your loved one. Personally, if I am living on my own I can easily get used to doing everything on my own and spending quality time alone. The person you are dating wants to still feel like they are a part of your life because at the end of the day they are a part of your life. Don’t exclude them just because they cannot be there in person.
  4. Don’t be afraid to argue. Remember that you are in a relationship, and if you are making every effort to change yourself and your feelings then you are setting up the relationship to fail. Argue smartly and don’t “hit below the belt”. Do not insult your boyfriend or girlfriend. EVER. But especially when you are in a long distance relationship. It’s a poor communication habit that only creates more problems.
  5. Do not have unrealistic expectations. When Eric and I started dating he would send me beautiful love letters that he wrote and daily poems he found online about how he felt about me. Now he sends me funny memes and Overwatch jokes. If I expected him to act the same way he did in the beginning of the realtionship I would not be giving our relationship the freedom it needs to grow and become even stronger. Talk with your boyfriend or girlfriend and see what you both think is realistic for your relationship.
  6. You can still grow together with an individual even if they are miles apart. That person will be with you at your highest points and at your lowest points and while they may not be able to physically hug you remember that their love is better than a superficial hug.
  7. Facebook stickers for messenger are life! They are really cute and fun to send to send to each other and that is one thing that we have managed to keep up over the three years we have been together.
  8. Trust that you both love each other. That is the biggest lesson that I learned and which helped me to navigate all else. But don’t be shy to ask if your boyfriend or girlfriend still loves you. Not every single day or week, but make sure that you check in and survey your relationship together.

I hope this helped! Please feel free to ask me any question in the comments! I would love to hear your thoughts or your own experiences. 🙂 If you would like to see more of us follow us on my YouTube channel. (Channel is currently on pause until I fix my crashed computer and regain my editing software 😦 )

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A three cord strand is not easily broken…

I am learning how healthy it is to surround myself with people who are inspiring and encouraging. I recently have returned from spending 7 weeks with a great group of individuals from the U.S. I have learned that we have much more potential than what we realize that we do. Often times, I have realized that we set our dreams too low. I believe that this is done so that we will not be disappointed if we truly reach for the dreams that seem impossible. Studying abroad was a dream that seemed impossible to me when I began my freshman year of college. I did not have the money and my family was struggling financially. My family never stopped struggling financially, but by God’s grace it happened.

Now that I am back in the U.S of A there have been quite a few changes to my life and while every aspect of my life seems like it will be daunting I know that each challenge is simply a staircase to reaching a new level of growth and a new level of success. We always hear that the people we surround ourselves with will strongly influence our lives. I have always heard such phrases as a word of caution.

As a child I was afraid to surround myself with the wrong type of people. I was afraid I how people would change me. Looking back, I wish I heard more of an emphasis on how people can change us for the better. This past year I have met incredible people who have helped to show me my full potential and who have helped me to believe in myself. •

The lesson that I have learned from this experience is that while it is important to guard ourselves against things that can drain our spirits too many walls of protection can actually stunt us. Find at least a few people who will stick with you thick and thin. Who will nurture your mind and stimulate your soul. People who make you feel whole and not empty.DSC_5376

 

“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

-Ecclesiastes 4:12

Behind the featured photo: 

I picked these flowers during my “walk” in Goteborg Sweden. I was miserable in my room because my time on crutches was extended for two more weeks and I only had three more weeks in the beautiful country of Sweden. I forced myself out of my third floor apartment and haphazardly made my way down the 157 steps and outside onto the beautiful street where I caught the near by tram. Each step I took was exhausting, but I was determined to enjoy every bit of sunshine that I could. Hobbling on crutches forced me to slow down and notice the beauty even more than I usually would. I noticed these three flowers and carried them with me during the rest of my walk.  These flowers are still beautiful although some petals are missing and I feel that sometimes life is like that. Not everything is rosy or always perfectly filtered, but there is still real beauty in the imperfections.

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The end. The beginning. And the rebirth of my blog!

Hello friends!

I am so excited to revive my blog from the dead, but first I should apologize for disappearing off the face of the earth for 7 weeks! I was having the time of my life in both Lillehammer and Oslo, Norway while studying like crazy during my time at the Intentional summer school. But alas, I am back in sunny California! I figured that since I was away for quite some time and because I have made some new friends over the past couple of weeks that I should reintroduce my blog and my vision for it.

To provide a brief sparks note version in one sentence: My vision for this blog is to simultaneously provide a space for unfettered reflection and for individuals to find a place of peace, familiarity and newness in this small corner of the internet. I believe that  story telling is powerful and that we can all be empowered by the trials and triumphs of others. I hope is that although I will be creating the content for this blog that through your comments we can all learn something from each other.

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Behind the name: Rose Colored Reflections

The name has a double meaning. For the purposes of this blog I go by Micaiah Rose. So in essence this blog is about how I see the world and my general reflections on life and my experiences. The second meaning is about unmasking the rose colored images portrayed in social media. As someone who is typically very guarded, I have embarked on a journey to let me guard down. I believe that there is strength in vulnerability, yet often in society being vulnerable is seen as a weakness (especially as a black woman). While I am still learning this daily, I hope that others will be able to relate in seeing that our capacity to be vulnerable is a superpower.

Why do I blog: I decided to start  blogging for a multitude of reasons, but generally I have found that when I am overwhelmed by deep emotion I start writing. I may write about the fading colors of the sunset or about nonsense in my diary, but either way I know that I must write.  My blog is a way to share with individuals my views of the world and how I have worked to navigate its depths.

What is my blog about? (Lifestyle, Fashion, Travel)

This blog is about my personal experiences such as navigating college, the exploration of my sense of fashion and the expansion of my world views. I plan to 19894964_1383425985039819_5080155454782937059_n.jpgshare new interests that I encounter such as artwork, books, travel, self-motivation and life advice. I simply desire to share things that are prone to feeding the soul.

A brief blurb about me:

I was born and raised in Northern California and am in my final year of undergrad pursuing my BA in Sociology and a minor Peace and Conflict Resolution. If you asked me where I feel most at home I would have to say I feel at home in diverse settings and with people from all over the world. I have a creative soul. From choreographing dances, to writing and playing the flute, and my new hobby of video editing; creating is one of my deepest passions.

About the featured photo:

The featured photo is a sculpture by the Norwegian sculptor Gustav Vigeland who lived until 1946. This photo specifically illustrates in his fountain of life a girl haphazardly plunging into woman20292639_1444836432220414_3245706336631235779_nhood. I took this photo at sunset when my time in Oslo was drawing to its end. An ending of one chapter of life and the beginning of a new. It only seemed befitting to post this photo as I enter again into a new chapter of my own life.

Thanks for reading!

 

 

The Senior Project: Continued

The summer of my junior year my entire junior class had to develop a senior class project, which I quote “had to be a stretch and a challenge”. While we all grumbled and complained about our project I learned a lot from that experience and I am so incredibly thankful for what my high school forced me to do. The school acknowledged each student’s capacity to accomplish something great. We had almost complete freedom as to what that project could be. I chose to do a clothes drive and a homelessness awareness week. While my project was not as successful as I had originally envisioned, I learned a lot about what I could accomplish when I set my mind to it.  That was one of the most valuable things I learned from my time in high school. I have come to realize that both high school and college are about challenging ourselves not just mentally. In high school we should learn how to be independent and in college we should ask ourselves, how can my interests and talents be coupled with my new found independence to better my surroundings?

If I am to be completely honest with you I lost sight of the importance of nurturing growth in all areas of my life. I was concerned with my grades, but not necessarily with my campus involvement. After quitting marching band because of how time consuming I found it to be I found myself simply existing on my campus. What I realized and am still coming to discover is that what truly makes college worthwhile are not the classes, but how involved you become while in college.

That is why I want to do another senior project. While my university does not require an official project I am eager to take on this challenge because I know how much I will grow from the experience. I have a few ideas as to what I want to do, and I am sure you will be hearing more about it as time goes on.

I just want to leave you with this truth that you do not have to be in  college to embark on your “senior project journey”. You can actually be a senior (haha), or you can decide that every four years you will come up with a personal project that is a stretch and a challenge. You can even find a friend or a mentor to hold you accountable.

Love, 

Micaiah Rose

What is your biggest regret? Part 1

Hello loves!

I just saw this video on facebook about people’s biggest regrets and it spoke volumes. I figured I would share my biggest regret with you just in the hopes to help others know that they can be honest with themselves, and through doing so find a way to move on.

So here it goes,

My biggest regret is pretending. Fooling myself that I was giving it my all in many areas in my life while in reality I was taking it easy. I regret giving just enough and not giving it my all. While I could travel across the world and live on my own I still fear failure at times and I still fear the unknown. You would think that the fear of failure would propel people to do all they can do to not fail, but for me it meant playing it safe.

IMG_0064Little by little I have taken steps to grow and to challenge myself, but I know that in some areas I still give just enough. But life’s greatest moments are never from giving just enough, but by pursuing life passionately or through giving up control and trusting that God has a plan. Again, not pretending…

 

I had the opportunity to attend a UC in California, but I was afraid to leave home. I regretted not going for years after I attended a state college. But guess what? God opened doors for me. Doors I don’t believe I would have found if I had attended that other college. I met my amazing boyfriend who has made me a better person and I created an academic plan that makes sense for me. Unique opportunities at my home University found me and I am so thankful to Jesus for His love. That he has a plan for me even though I may not understand it all.

Ultimately, even though we may have or might not have done something we are still living. New opportunities can find us everyday if we are open to them. We may have to step a little out of our comfort zone, but they are waiting to find us and can do so in the most unexpected ways.

If you have any experiences or ideas in overcoming regret I would love to hear your story.

Love,

Micaiah Rose

Solo Traveling Planning Kit: Part 1!

Hello there 🙂

If you are here then that can mean just one thing! You have an interest in traveling solo and more importantly you may be looking for ways to have your time abroad run as smoothly as possible. While we can certainly use our phone to keep track of much of the important information necessary for our survival, when our phones fail we need a plan B.

When I was abroad in Paris, I did not have access to the internet except when I crashed at cafes for an hour or so to plan my next move. What really helped me was doing everything the old fashioned17619564_1321936617843730_267690874_n way. That’s right. Carrying around a journal and using pen and paper.

I literally used my little brown notebook for everything! I wrote down directions, and essential phone numbers such as the contact information for all of the embassies for every country that I was planning on visiting.

For those who like decorating as much as they enjoy planning I created this easy page to help you organize some of your trip!

I hope this helps! Have fun, be open to new experiences and be safe!

Love, Micaiah Rose 

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